How Does Life Coaching Work? What Can I Expect?
Coaches use a variety of different techniques, methods, and processes to help you reach your goals. There are countless different training and educational programs that coaches learn from, so there are many ways they can use to help you succeed.
The First Meeting - The first meeting with a life coach usually lasts typically 30 minutes to one hour. It is often used as a discovery session where they learn more about you and your aspirations. This may be an initial consultation to see if life coaching is right for you, or it could be a time to figure out what you want to focus on, or it could be both.
In this initial session, the life coach will be asking a lot of questions and probably having you take various assessments and going through certain exercises to find out what the best method is to go about conquering your goals. Some of the questions they may ask might include: What are you passionate about?, what do you avoid?, what is holding you back?, where will this get you?, what’s another way to look at this situation?, etc.. You should walk away from the first meeting with an initial game plan and an idea of what you will do next or something to explore that will start getting you on track.
What a Coaching Session is Like - A coaching session will look slightly different depending on what methods your life coach uses and what stage of coaching you’re in. This relationship is dynamic and it will change over time because you will start getting used to how you work best with them, and they will accommodate their methods to fit your strengths.
Life coaching sessions will gradually reveal what’s holding you back and what exactly you get stuck on, so that you can identify and diminish the mental and emotional blocks or limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success and progress. A life coach is great at helping you see what’s in your blind spots and getting you to look at things from a different perspective. The importance of this is that you can only truly get this through the help of another person like a life coach who is helping you examine your life and goals. This isn’t something you can simply learn from a book and that’s why life coaching sessions are extremely valuable.
The Outcome - The outcome of a life coaching session is a feeling of direction and purpose. Instead of those feelings of being lost or constantly frustrated by either not being able to reach your goals, or just disappointment in failing to try, you will feel energized and mobilized. When you are finally able to crack the code on setting doable goals and taking the correct steps to follow through, it is an incredible feeling.
Your life coach is there to get you moving as soon as possible so that you begin to feel more confident and productive right away and carry that energy into the rest of your life. The happiness that comes with having a clear vision and actually witnessing yourself achieve your goals is validating, and the best thing that comes out of life coaching sessions.
A life coaching session will generally include a discovery time near the beginning to figure out where you are, what you’re doing and what you should do. After that, the sessions will be more about holding you accountable to the steps you should be taking to get where you need to go, and tackling problems that may pop up along the way. A coach is focused on three main things: taking action, staying accountable and following through. These three things guarantee success and will be an integral part of how your coaching sessions are handled.
What Your Relationship with Your Coach is Like - You may initially be unsure about what your relationship with your coach should look like. The relationship should be based on trust and be something that is constantly challenging you. The ultimate goal for a life coach is not to tell you what to do but to ask you the right questions so that you tell yourself what to do. Then they are responsible for holding you accountable for the decisions you make, and goals you set.
A life coach can be similar to a lot of things like a consultant, advocate, friend, facilitator, navigator, and more but ultimately they are there to get you to take action. They are there to help you succeed so they will push you and challenge you to look at things differently and stay on the right track. This is a relationship that is a partnership. You can trust them to be a non-judgmental party who is looking out for your best interest with no ulterior motive except to see you succeed.
What Areas of My Life Can a Life Coach Help Me with? Life coaches can help you in any area of your life including, but not limited to:
Health and fitness
Procrastination & productivity
Finding your purpose
The list of things life coaches can help you with is pretty much endless. Since there are so many aspects of life, any area can be worked on. You should ask yourself, “What do I want to do with my life? Where do I want to improve myself?” It’s up to you to decide what you most need help with, or you can find out exactly what it is that has been bothering you, together with the help of a good coach.
Life coaching is NOT right for you if…
There are some situations where life coaching is not going to be the right thing for you. If you’re in need of therapy or serious counseling for a mental illness or issue in your life, you may want to consider resolving this or at least starting the resolution process with a counselor or therapist before seeking out a life coach.
Also, if you just want to be told what to do, this may not be the solution for you. A life coach is going to guide you and help you make your own decisions rather than get out a step by step play book and tell you exactly what to do.
Finally, you have to be willing to actually carry out the change. Life coaching isn’t right for you if you are not able to commit to working on yourself, stretching your thinking and taking action in your life. A life coach expects you to be involved in your solution and you will not gain anything from the experience if you do not want to change.
Making the Decision - If you have begun asking the right questions and evaluating what areas in your life need improvement, the decision to hire a life coach will be much easier. Going through the lists above will also help highlight those areas of your life that could use some extra work and a little extra accountability.
If you’re ready to make an action plan rather than just explore your various issues, a life coach is definitely a great option for you. If you still have some past issues that you need to deal with or you aren’t sure that you’re quite ready to start making serious changes, you could consult with a life coach to see if you should seek out help with a therapist or counselor first. It is extremely important to be in the right place mentally and emotionally to get the most out of the coaching experience.
Ultimately, life coaching will be worth your time if you are determined to be open to new ideas, tactics and are willing to put in work to implement changes. You don’t even need to have a specific goal in mind before you go to a life coach, as long as you know you want more from life they can help you pinpoint what’s next for you. A coach will improve your self-awareness, widen your thinking and help you become more focused. They are great people to go to when you want help accessing the talent and motivation you already carry within yourself.
Adapted from Life Coach Spotter Learning Center https://www.lifecoachspotter.com/what-is-a-life-coach/.
If you would like a free life coaching discovery session, contact Tracey McConnell at (928) 925-4020 or Tracey@CreativeCapacitiesLLC.com.