Black Lives Matter – How Can We Be Part of the Solution?

The current times are daunting. Lives are being dismantled and blown apart: losing secure jobs, schools are closed, businesses are buckling under economic distress. Everything is changing. A lot of looting, violence and social injustice is now at everyone’s back door. We cannot step back into time. We can stay stuck or we can move forward with an invitation to become responsive, values-driven, and intentional about who we are and how we want to be a part of the solution.

BLACK LIVES MATTER - We come face to face to Black Lives Matter. While it is not a new movement, the message is central to the nationwide protests happening right now. BLACK LIVES MATTER speaks out against the police brutality and systemic racism that caused recent deaths, as well as the thousands of violent incidents that happen to Black people that aren’t recorded.

"Black Lives Matter” doesn’t mean that other lives aren’t important – it means that Black lives, which are seen as without value within White supremacy, are important to our liberation. When Black people in this country get free, the benefits will be wide-reaching and transformative for society as a whole. When we are able to end the hyper-criminalization of Black people and end the poverty, control and surveillance of Black people, every single person in this world has a better shot at getting and staying free. When Black people get free, everybody gets free."

DIVISIVENESS - Underlining this issue is divisiveness. Divisiveness begets more divisiveness, perpetuates fear, and escalates civil unrest. I invite us to reframe this issue.

I invite you to have a focused conversation with your friends, family, and personal network.

OBJECTIVE QUESTIONS: Each of us has been impacted by these critical events.

  • Would each of us please share something about how this issue has affected your life?

REFLECTIVE QUESTIONS: During a crisis, the best and worst of human behavior is on full display.

  • In the course of these life changing events, what makes you most upset?

  • What positive things have arisen from these challenging events?

  • How would it feel if we could learn about prejudice like never before, really dive deep on how prejudice is propagated and how we can behave in ways that remove it from our daily lives?

INTERPRETIVE QUESTIONS: We can learn and create a new reality for ourselves and others in our world.

  • What are you learning from these life events?

  • How might we be self-reflective and work together to be a part of the solution while doing no additional harm?

DECISIONAL QUESTIONS: What can be a part of the solution.

  • What are you willing to do differently because of our conversation today?

  • What is your next step to be part of the solution, personally? Collectively?

Thank you for joining me in this conversation. Every individual, company and organization can play a role as we address this critical issue. Let’s look for opportunities to learn more, to lean on each other for a better way to live. Blessings to you and all of us!

The Focused Conversation Method originated in the 1960’s and is being used in African Villages, Fortune 500 board rooms, and many other places throughout the world. More and more leaders see facilitation as an absolutely critical management skill. Why? Everyone wants to participate in everything that has any possible personal impact, and those who can facilitate a useful conversation are at a premium.

“Organizations today need meetings that help people move from a reactive into a proactive focus on solutions. They need meetings that give people as much say as possible over the issues that affect their lives and work. Such meetings are needed at every level in the organization, so it is clear that everyone’s input and involvement are important, and that tested methods will accomplish the agenda, maximize participation, and get the job done.” – R. Brian Stanfield, The Art of Focused Conversations.

Black Lives Matter! If you’d like to have this conversation facilitated, please call on me. I am willing to take voluntary donations to make this happen. I am a Transformation Life Coach and Group Facilitator. You can reach me at or (928) 925-4020. My website is

How to support Black lives, a list of resources:

The Sit List: 5 things you can do to support the Black community

Want to help the Black Lives Matter cause but don’t know how? Donate (we suggest where), sign petitions that matter, educate yourself and listen to the insights of brilliant Black poets.

Black Lives Matter Reading List

List of Black Owned Bookstores

Kids support #BLM: “Without racism everything would be fairer”

Free Library of Philadelphia – Black Lives Matter

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