Updated: Nov 5, 2020
Welcome to the most comprehensive and simplified guide for finding your life purpose. Your purpose is not something you pull out of thin air. It is a deliberate step by step inquiry about your unique gifts, guiding values, and personal passions.
The Four Steps to Finding Your Life Purpose
Step 1: Unveil Your Unique Gifts
Step 2: Discover Your Values
Step 3: Unleash Your Passions
Step 4: Craft Your Life Purpose Statement
STEP 1: UNVEIL YOUR UNIQUE GIFTS
Everyone has a unique gift — something that is just undeniably “you” and is precisely useful to those around you. It’s much more than a skill — it is an ingrained strength fueled by your deepest passions and nurtured by an unwavering sense of purpose.
Most people never find their unique gift, either because they don’t realize they have one, don’t believe they have one, haven’t attempted to find it, or don’t recognize it when it is staring them in the face.
Your unique gifts, your attitude, your experiences all combine beautifully to create an ideal vision of yourself. You hold a place in the world that no one else can ever fill! There’s something special that you need to share with us. There’s a problem out there and your life’s the solution. Each and every one of us has some talent for doing something. Like it’s hardwired into you. And you can do this something better than anyone else you know. A thing that if you were allowed to, you would do it all day long.
In truth we all have multiple talents and gifts. Key skills that if honed, practiced and perfected would transform not only ourselves but the whole world around us. The better you become, the better the world becomes.
We’re all connected to each other. Living our lives within the divine matrix of existence. As my resonant frequency improves, I inspire others to do the same. The more that I allow myself to feel joy and happiness the greater the signal that I send out into life. Influencing others in a positive and helpful way.
What Is A Gift or Talent? A gift and talent is something that you’re not only good at, but it’s something that you have a desire to do. When you’re using that gift you’re filled with joy and power.
Sometimes we may discover that we have some skill at something but when we do it we’re miserable. Guess what, that’s not your gift or talent. It may be a skill that you can use to accomplish your goals but it’s not a gift or talent that should be developed, nurtured or explored.
If it brings you no joy and drains your life energy while doing it then it’s not one of your gifts and talents. So do everything that you can to stop doing it.
Identifying your own natural strengths and talents isn’t always easy, but it’s well-worth your time to uncover them. Admittedly, there is no clear path to doing so, however, I’ve found a few very effective methods for uncovering clues that can lead you to discover your unique gifts, strengths and talents.
1. Take a Free Online Assessment
2. Interview Family, Friends, Colleagues, Supervisors
3. Group all similar strengths together. Now that you have taken the assessments and interviewed people close to you, group this list of strengths in a way that makes sense to you, personally. Create a maximum of five to seven groupings.
3. Identify the 5 to 7 Strengths and Talents You Love to Share. Choose one word within each grouping that best represents the label for the entire group. Again, do not overthink your labels. There are no right or wrong answers. You are defining the answer that is right for you.
STEP 2: DISCOVER YOUR VALUES
Discovering your own values, these things important to you in life, is a process of self-discovery that everyone ideally should take. You will feel better when you live a life in alignment with your values. With so much emphasis placed on happiness in our society, we each need to learn about what our deep core values are — to enable ourselves to live a full and meaningful life.
Values define what is important to us throughout many different situations. They develop based on our subjective world view. As every individual has a different world view, every individual has their own mix of values with its own hierarchy. E.g.: For some of us, personal freedom is important. For others security, social justice or preserving nature is important.
We tend to experience positive emotions when we act in congruence with our values or when our environment also advocates them. However, we tend to experience negative emotions, when the opposite is true. Personal values develop throughout our lives rather subconsciously. However, the more conscious we get about them, the more we are able to live in congruence with them. Scientific studies emphasize that living in congruence with the personal values significantly increases the chances to be personally successful and satisfied.
Author Stephen R. Covey states: “People can’t live with change if there’s not a changeless core inside them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value.”
1. Take a Free Online Assessment
2. Group all similar values together. Now that you have taken the assessments and interviewed people close to you, group this list of values in a way that makes sense to you, personally. Create a maximum of five to seven groupings.
3. Identify the 5 to 7 Values Critical to Your Daily Existence. Choose one word within each grouping that best represents the label for the entire group. Again, do not overthink your labels. There are no right or wrong answers. You are defining the answer that is right for you.
STEP 3: UNLEASH YOUR PASSIONS
A “passion” is defined as a “powerful or compelling emotion or feeling,” an “object of intense desire, ardent affection, or enthusiasm” (according to dictionary.reference.com). Many people define having personal passions as important to a quality life—being able to use their full talents doing some things that they enjoy.
People define passions in all sorts of different ways because of differences in personal preferences. For some, a personal passion involves self-expression through various types of art, literature, or performances. Others are inspired by filmmaking; still others write and create music. For some, a passion is a physical activity—whether it’s a team sport or an individually practiced sport. Others capture photographic images. Others collect objects. Some pursue historical research. Others have a cause to make to the world a better place.
Passions are satisfying to people because they often enable a unique form of self-expression. It is a way for some to share their personal insights with others. Passions enable ways of engaging with the world. For still others, these enable the leaving behind of a legacy for others. Personal passions have personal meaning.
People may stumble across passions through serendipity. Those who are fortunate are able to parlay these interests into lifelong careers where their passions may spark their explorations and performance—and push them to great heights of creativity.
Passions may sound like they’re very high-minded, but they also have a very practical element. Each person has a responsibility to explore what sparks passions inside themselves and ways to encourage and hone their unique gifts.
Take some time now to explore what lights you up inside, what beckons the best of you to show up and be the very best you can be. These questions are meant to spur your inquiry, and it is not necessary to answer all of them.
1. How did you love to spend time as a child? What did you enjoy doing the most? How would you pass the days and what types of activities were exciting to you?
2. What are you passionate about as an adult? What lights you up and gets you totally motivated? What kinds of things do you enjoy doing so much that you lose track of time?
3. What is important to you about life? When you think about the different areas of life (like health, career, family, relationship, personal development, spirituality/religion, recreation), make a list of all the things that are important to you in each of these categories.
4. What are you doing to get closer to a perfect world? What makes you so mad you’ll defend it with strangers on the internet? What topics, when your friends bring them up, make you so mad you want to educate or persuade them? You could use your anger to make a positive change. It can light you up and propel you towards issues worth resolving.
5. What would you do, even when it sucked? What would you willingly keep doing, even if you knew you would have those crap covered days sometimes? Because seriously, creating a life of purpose and meaning can have some challenges.
6. Where do I want to go? You can answer this many different ways. Your answer may involve a spiritual, mental, or physical destination. It might describe your career arc.
7. What does “the best” look like for me? Describe your best possible result. This isn’t the time to be realistic. This is the time to dream.
8. How do I want to act? How do you want people to describe you? Think of a few words you would want to come to mind when people think about you.
9. What kind of legacy do I want to leave behind? Imagine you’re 100 years in the future. What does the impact you’ve left look like? How is your Butterfly Effect still touching lives?
10. Sum up your passions in a paragraph (or two)
STEP 4: CRAFT YOUR LIFE PURPOSE STATEMENT
1. Take a Free Online Assessment
2. Invite Family, Friends, Colleagues, Supervisors to interview you
3. Use the following template to articulate your Life Purpose Statement:
“The Purpose of my life is to
(what I do to be on purpose)___________________________________________________
(my being, my values, gifts I bring to my purpose activity)
so that/in order to___________________________________________________________
(the impact or the outcome of when I am being and doing on purpose)
Be sure that your statement is sufficiently broad to encompass a vision of activities and is not limited to what you are doing today.
Here are some examples of Life Purpose Statements:
To selflessly, genuinely and honestly create spaces of open- mindedness and empathy in our culture to promote happiness, freedom and respect for all.
To powerfully and creatively uplift others so that we express ourselves freely and create a diverse and just society.
To lovingly and collaboratively inspire and empower deep connection in order to forge a positive network and create a wave of transformative change.
To live life fully, honestly, and compassionately while making a positive impact on all those around me.
To make a difference in people’s lives through expert advice, personal empowerment, and compassion.
A few guidelines:
Keep it short. You want this to be something you can sum up in a single sentence. Remember, this is about focusing your life on what matters most! Boundaries will help you keep that focus.
Don’t forget about others. Yes, this is a personal mission statement, but it should be just as much about the people you want to impact as it is about yourself. Make sure that shows.
Share it with the most important people in your life. Get feedback from your spouse, your mentors, and any other important people in your life. They can provide you with invaluable insight.
It’s OK to make changes. As you grow and continue learning, your mission might evolve. That’s natural. As long as you’re staying true to the mission you know you were put here to accomplish, you can’t go wrong.”
Once you have gained more clarity about your purpose, you don’t need to completely overhaul your life completely all at once. Instead, just lean into it, bit by bit. Start living your purpose a little more fully every day, and pay attention to the feedback you’re receiving from others and in terms of the results you are producing, and also to how you are feeling.
Take the time to craft your Life Purpose Statement and see what a valuable tool it is to promoting clarity and fulfillment in your life.
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